14 Mar Heal Your Inner Child: A Guide to Self-Love

Many people have inner children that are wounded. It is common to feel like there is something wrong with you, or that you need to change in order to be accepted by society. Unfortunately, this inner child can lead you down a dark path of self-sabotage and self-destruction. This blog post will guide you through the process of healing your inner child so they can finally love themselves unconditionally!

Steps to following:

– Identify inner child. What is their name? How do they feel about themselves, or how did they learn that it wasn’t safe for them to love themselves fully and unconditionally? Write this down in the present tense as if you were looking into a mirror at your inner child. If necessary write it out multiple times until you begin to see yourself differently. This will help dissolve any negative identity constructions of who you are based on what happened in your past so that way when you address the inner child directly, they can truly hear what we have to say without reacting defensively because of trauma from our past experiences with others hurting us during childhood and adolescence (this does not mean blame parents/guardians).

– Identify inner child’s wounds. These are the things that they believe make them unlovable or unworthy of love and connection in general. This may be anything from body dysmorphia, to anxiety attacks, sexual insecurity etc. It is important to understand this so we can begin healing our inner children with unconditional self-love! If you have more than one inner child (I had like five) it is helpful if each inner child has a different color pen/marker because when writing out what their wound was I found myself getting confused between which inner kid wrote certain sentences 😛 So having separate colors helped me keep track 🙂

– Address inner child directly: Now write down everything you want to say to your inner child about how much you love and accept them just the way they are. Use affirmative statements, and make sure to focus on the present moment rather than the past. For example “I know that you feel ashamed of your body, but I want you to know that I see your beauty and it is absolutely perfect just the way it is” or “I understand that you’re afraid, but I’m here with you and I will protect you always”. Try to write at least five sentences!

– After addressing inner child directly, give yourself a big hug! visualizing/feeling this energetic connection between yourself (the adult self) and your inner child can be really powerful in helping them feel seen, safe, and loved.

The most important thing to remember is that this inner child has been through a lot of trauma. Even if you have already addressed your inner child directly and they are accepting the love, it doesn’t mean that all their wounds will be healed right away! This can take time to work out, but keeping these exercises up on a daily basis (or as often as possible) can help move things along faster.

I hope this blog post was helpful in healing your inner children 🙂 Feel free to share with anyone else who may benefit from reading it too!